Finding the love of your life is not easy. Keeping it, is even harder. “They married and they lived happily ever after” is the epilogue of many tales. But the reality is quite different. Sustaining a marriage is a feat nowadays. To help you keep the flame, here are some amazing scientific discoveries.
- A not too expensive wedding ceremony: Surprising, isn’t it? Yet an Emory University study has proved it to be true. In fact, couples who have a ceremony whose bill came to more than $16,000 divorced three and a half times more than those who spent between 4,000 and 8,000 $. Pay less for your wedding ceremony and you have less chance to get divorced.
- Meeting on the Internet: The magazine of the National Academy of Sciences published a study that showed that couples who met on a website are happier and divorced less than those who have met otherwise.
- Spend the least possible time on social networks: Once the gem was found on the internet, do not spend too much time the social networks. In a study published by the University of Boston, it has been shown that excessive use of these networks engendered the marriage and produced a higher divorce rate. Give more time to your spouse and your relationship will be more harmonious.
- Watch movies together: Being together and having fun time watching a movie is very beneficial to the life of a couple. A study published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, couples who often watch movies together and talk about it later divorced two times less than the others. Discussing the sentimental relationship of even the fictional characters reflects on your own relationship and allows you to speak more openly. This is a great way to start certain topics and talk calmly.
- Do not ignore your partner’s repeated comments: When your partner is constantly interrupting you while you’re busy, he/she simply wants to get your attention. Give importance to what he/she does and spend more time with him/her. According to psychologist John Gottman, couples who pay attention to each other 9 times out of 10 remain together. While those who do it 3 times out of 10, end up divorced.
- The “We” in the arguments is beneficial: According to a study from the University of California couples who don’t use the I/me or you in their conflicts are better at solving their problems. The “we” is beneficial because it erases every form of selfishness or guilt on the other.
- Share passions: It is important to spend time together, but it’s even better if it is done by an activity that interests both partners. Happiness is when you are together and it thrives by sharing your passion with the beloved one.